Getting Started

It’s January 1^st and following in the footsteps of many people, I am kicking off the year with an intention. It’s not a resolution and it’s not a goal. It’s an intention to have fun, play, and be creative. As I was thinking about how I could incorporate these items into my life I thought about one thing I’ve wanted to do more of – write. For three years I’ve been looking for a writing outlet. I wanted to start a blog but I didn’t know my topic.

I realized that I also wanted to date more this year. In the past, I have not been a good “dater”. I tend to just date no one or be in a relationship. The one time I had two dates in the same week with guys I met online, I mixed up information they gave me about themselves.

I quickly put two & two together and came up with the idea to do a blog about dating. I didn’t want to do it through the new methods so many people use today – match.com, eharmony, etc. I’ve tried these sites and I know that they work for some people, but I have a hard time with them. They require tons of time to weed through the hundreds of matches that the site provides to you. Also, I’ve encountered people on these sites who seem to want to date someone but the moment you respond to them they run the other direction. It’s like a turtle going back into its shell.

My approach to dating will include asking friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc. to set me up with an eligible single male. I’m not going to be too prescriptive about what kind of guy I like. I don’t want to narrow down my options right out of the gate. Also, I want this to be fun. I don’t want everyone to over think the set-up. We’re over thinking enough these days and this should just be fun. The only questions that need to be asked are: Is he single? Does he want to go on a set-up? Does he have a job? Does he shower? Does he have a criminal record? The answers to those questions should be: yes, yes, yes, yes, no.

I will also be doing my part by asking men out. This is going to be the really challenging part of this project. People in Seattle don’t look at each other or talk to strangers. I’ll need to get really creative about how I meet people and how I get to the point of asking someone out. I’ve never asked a guy out on a date unless it was by sheer accident. This will be interesting for me and I think I’ll have fun with it. It feels a bit like a game or a challenge to me to see if I can do it.

My plan is to go on at least 2 dates a month. This might not seem like a lot but I think I had 3 dates total last year. I’ll blog about each experience from how the date came to be, what we did, and my thoughts about it. If the opportunity for a 2^nd date with the same person occurs, this won’t go towards the 2 dates a month count. We’ll consider it a bonus date that month. Lastly, for privacy sake, I’ll change the guy’s names.

I hope you enjoy hearing about my experiences & if you know of someone you want to set me up with, please let me know!