Advice & Concerns

Since announcing my intention to do this blog, I’ve received a lot of comments and been surprised by the interest people have in it. People have chimed in with suggestions, advice, and concerns about my plans. I didn’t overanalyze my idea. I just decided I wanted to do it and moved forward with my plans. I rarely make decisions so quickly. I think I spent one entire year debating the purchase of a laundry basket. I couldn’t justify spending $100 on a laundry basket so I kept using a nasty plastic one that was ripping apart. I eventually made the decision to purchase a new laundry basket and I’m pretty happy about my choice.
I figure there are reasons we make some decisions quickly and others we labor over. If I thought too long about my idea to do this blog I think it’s highly possible I wouldn’t have done it. It’s a personal topic and I’ve just asked the entire world to participate in it. I think I was under the misconceived notion that I would do it in a bubble and it might only be interesting to my mom. However, all that being said, sometimes the only way to make something happen is to write it down…whether it’s a goal to lose 10 pounds or make a certain salary in a year. Once you write it down it becomes real. I’ve made my project real by asking everyone to participate. I’ve realized too that the enthusiasm everyone is sending my way is because everyone can relate. Everyone has been in and out of relationships, gone on first dates, and probably asked someone out. Everyone has ideas about what worked for them or their friends. So thank you for the suggestions and ideas.
I thought it would be interesting for everyone to know some avenues I’m pursuing outside of the set ups by friends. I have signed up to volunteer on a few occasions and one is through a group that has a social/networking slant to their volunteer projects. I’m also joining a social club’s bowling league. I’ve signed up to play tennis again. I am also pursuing all the regular hot spots to meet people – coffee shops, bars, and classes, maybe even church! The whole project is an experiment for me and it’s meant to be fun. I don’t want to take anything too seriously.
I’ve also received concerns that I will make fun of the people who I date. That’s not the point of the blog. The point is about my experience of trying to meet a guy, go on a date, and discover things about myself through the process. Now, if the guy does something incredibly funny I will have to write about it. I can’t leave it out but I won’t make fun of them.
So with all those concerns aside and more details on the ground rules for this process, send the set ups my way! I’ve had a handful of people mention that they’ve got someone for me and I’m excited to meet them.